Sex Education

Kinky People, Here’s How To Have More Fun & Play Safer!

I have been involved in my local kink community for over a decade. The quality of information about any particular kink can be patchy at best. Like many kinksters, I am invested in good information because it means I can have more fun and play more safely. It’s a win-win, really! Over the years, I have gone to a bunch of workshops and only one of those changed how I played due to new information.

That one informative workshop was on breath play. The workshop included a demonstration before the facilitator shared pages and pages of notes from medical journals about the impacts of breath play on the body and brain. The workshop was both hot as hell with the demonstration and chilling because even though I am a huge nerd, even I didn’t know half of what she was talking about. At the time I didn’t have a scientific background I have now so didn’t have the know-how to research these topics independently.

Some time later, I was talking to a friends’ new dominant about breath play – something he had been doing for well over a decade at his own estimation – I spoke about some of the dangers of breath play with him which I’d learned about in the workshop. Speaking about how if you mess this up and the person ends up in hospital, there’s things even the best medical technology can’t monitor. The guy didn’t know this. It frustrated me to see him playing with my friend with so little knowledge. There has to be a better way to get that knowledge out there en mass so everyone can benefit from it I thought, not just those who have time and money for workshops.

Our community has an information gap. There is some good information out there. The information though is fragmented, can often be out of date, and you can never be sure of how well-researched this information is or even if the person is an authority on a particular kink.

That’s where my new project comes in. I will be giving back to the kink community using my scientific background and extensive kink experience. Using deep research methods to put different kinks under the microscope I will be highlighting key topics of background, technique, safety and more. Just like the workshop facilitator did when she told the room about what she’d found in medical research. I’ll be taking a deep dive into different kinks so people in the community can take the latest knowledge and use it to not only play safe, but also to understand more about kink and alternative sexuality. Each paper with its breath of knowledge can be a spring board for patrons to explore their kinks. This can also be a valuable piece of information which they have in their back pocket for when they engage in conversations about kink.

This is a project for the community. As such, I am asking members of the community to financially back the project so I can ‘buy the time’ to do this important work rather than the other paying projects which are vying for my time and energy. I am asking interested patrons to also critique papers. Is there something more you’d like to know? The people who this information is serving – my patrons – will be asked what they want to know and I’ll be delivering that information. All members of the Patreon community have a voice in this project.

Although in the long term, I would like to release this research outside the Patreon community for the betterment of the larger kink community, currently I have no plans for such a release. Each paper shared with the Patreon community is a draft for the community to further unpack and ask questions about. For this reason, you have to be an active member of the Patreon community to access the papers and I ask members of the Patreon community to not share, distribute or plagiarize the papers.

If you can see yourself benefiting from the information in these papers, or just want to support someone who is doing good work in the community, you can become a patron for as little as $5 per month. There are other benefits outside of accessing the papers too. Everything from monthly kinky short stories, to free ebooks, to commissioning custom short stories written by myself. To learn more about all the benefits and to become a patron, please read the patron tiers on my patreon page before you make your pledge.

This is an exciting project and one which although in its early stages, I hope helps the kink community for years to come!